Q&A: What should I do now that High School is over? (Read Details)?

Question by : What should I do now that High School is over? (Read Details)?
Now i’m an Almost-18-year-old with a High School Diploma heading out into the real world… Along with 100,000+ others graduating this year.. :/.. My family has no money for college… Or even a car for me… So I need to get a job. The thing is I was the “weird” kid in high school and I’m not good at “looking the part” of normal society. I definitely fit the bill mentally, just not physically. It’s been a little over a month, and my parents are starting to get “pushy” about everything. They don’t understand that EVERYONE is looking for a job right now. What do I do? I’m getting depressed more and more everyday, and it sucks..

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Answer by raheem s
All you gotta do is apply for financial AID! they pay for your college go to 2 year college and then pay it off i am sure you will find a job trust me, i’m doing the same hope that help , peace and love<3

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My 1999 BMW 328i will not go in reverse?

Question by Muccimooch: My 1999 BMW 328i will not go in reverse?
Hello, I have a BMW 328i that drives forward perfectly well, but will not go in reverse. I brought to the BMW service center, and I was told that the entire transmission needs to be replaced. I have never brought my car to a private mechanic. Apparantly, BMW only replaces the “entire” transmission and will not fix a “part” of the transmission. The tranmission costs $ 4400 and with labor the the whole thing will cost just over $ 6,000. According to BlueBook, this is approximately the value of the car. Has anyone had this problem with a BMW before? Did you go to a private mechanic? How much did it cost? Thank you! ANY advice, including recommendations for getting this fixed or a possible replacement vehicle would be greatly appreciated.

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Answer by wasithacany
I would go to a transmission shop they usually are the next best thing. Being a BMW try a foreign auto shop.

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I was molested when i was 10?

Question by : I was molested when i was 10?
Okay. Well this happened to me when i was 10 years old.
My cousin was going to have a baby, and me and my other cousins from out of state were staying the night at her house.
They were all drinking, my cousin that was pregnant wasn’t, she went to sleep. My Uncle, me, and my other cousins were still up. My cousins and I were watching a horror movie, it was kinda late, about 11:30 or so. My cousins fell asleep, but i find it hard to fall asleep in the middle of the movie.
My uncle came out from the kitchen, and asked me if i was scared. I simply replied, “Yeah, well this is a scary part..” He kinda got annoyed and went back into the kitchen.

Soon, the movie was over and i didn’t notice but i had fallen asleep right before the end. I was must have just fallen asleep, because i rolled over after feeling something touch me.
I kinda opened my eyes after, and looked, it was my uncle. I thought to myself, “Whats he doing up still? must be turning off the movie..”
But then i felt him place his hand back on my butt.. I rolled over again, it scared him. he sat on the couch. (Me and cousins were sleeping on the floor in front of the T.v.) He sat there for a few minutes.

I was facing one of my cousins, she was asleep still, My uncle bent down, and touched her boobs.. I rolled over again, remembering that it might scare him off of her. It did. he kept trying to touch her, so i rolled over and over repeatedly. he was really drunk.
He must have got tired of trying, so he went into the bathroom, peed, and went into the other bedroom.

In that time, my heart was racing, only a 10 year old girl.. I didn’t know what to do. So i woke my cousin up. and told her what had happened. she couldnt believe it, but she did believe me. We layed back down, soon, not being able to go back to sleep, i looked at the clock, it was 3:30 on a Sunday morning. My cousin stayed up with me, she was scared too. (She was like 14 at the time) We heard my uncle coming back out, he was in his underwear. He slowly walked over to me, and layed down. I think he was about to put his arm around me, and my cousin popped her head up and said “What are you doing?” He replied with “uhh.. nothing, nothing. going to bed.” He got up and went into his bedroom.

Later that day, i was sick to my stomach. My dad called and said he was taking me to church, i begged him not to make me go, he yelled at me and said i had to.
Well, we were in church, i was traumatized. I kept falling asleep from the lack of sleep that i had that night, and then all of a sudden, i felt like i was going to through up.I ran into the bathroom, my parents said i could go wait in the car.

I didnt know how to tell my parents.. i didn’t know how to put it.
i was still having nightmares.
About 3 months later, my cousins called and said her mom was going to call back in 10 minutes, and tell my mom what happened.
She did, I finally broke down to my mom, and told her what happened.

About a month later, my cousin had found out (the pregnant one) and called me, and demanded to know the truth, she said i was lying. I under stand her for not wanting to believe me, that was her husband.

It’s 4 years later, going on 5.
The cops were never called, they now have 2 children, but they are divorcing.
Is it to late to do anything about it?
I didn’t mean to write a story, but come on.. The man who molested me lives right down the road from me now.

Advice? What should i do?

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Answer by Emily
I don’t really have advice for you on that, but I just wanted to say I’m sorry that happened to you. I can, from personal experience, tell you that you’re not alone. If that helps, which I doubt.

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Q&A: Is my Camry involved in the recall?

Question by Ell: Is my Camry involved in the recall?
I drive a 2007 Camry XLE, which is not a Hybrid.
According to this page: http://pressroom.toyota.com/pr/tms/toyota/FAQ-for-Sticking-Accelerator-Pedal-152196.aspx#link%201, particularly this part:
“Sticking Accelerator Pedal Recall – Highlander hybrids and Camry hybrids are not involved in this action. Further, Camry, Corolla and Highlander vehicles with VINs that begin with “J” are not involved in this action.”
it sounds like my car should be involved in the sticking accelerator recall, since my Camry isn’t a hybrid and the VIN number does not begin with the letter J. However, when I called my nearby dealer and gave them my VIN number they said I’m not a part of this recall.
I’m just wondering if the Toyota page was just unclear about which vehicles are affected, or if I need to call another dealership and check.
By the way, I would just wait to see if I am going to get a letter from Toyota, but my parents have moved since buying the car, and I don’t always get the mail I need back from them.

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Answer by Crystal
lol

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Q&A: Help writing a short story? 10 points to the best answer?

Question by Oct12: Help writing a short story? 10 points to the best answer?
There’s two stories i’m thinking about
it’s due next week monday so i have to choose one now

1. A young man finishes high school moving in his own apartment. A knock is on his door and he opens to find a package. It holds instructions. Weeks pass and he gets more packages with instructions. People who are close to him and the ones he suspect are dead. The young man can’t take it any longer so he moves out to go back with his parents and “future wife” hopefully. On his way out a “Sorry We Missed You Card and that there is a big box waiting for him in the post office” He heads to the post office but it’s closed. The killer and sender of the packages is revealed and kills him. She finally stuffs his body in a big box.[The killer was his best "girl"friend who loved him but didn't want to ruin the relationship she aready had with him. But the more he ignore her for others[family/friends/real girlfriends" the more she had hatred on him.]

2. A young man lives a middle class life. Gets run over by a car because his co-worker wouldn’t stop bringing up about how he needs to have a social life and girlfriend. He is sent to the hospital and as he recovers an angel appears. But awakens with a doctor saying he can go home. When he takes the train home the angel reappears.For he can only see her people think he’s crazy. The angel says that he must die because it was his time. She then tries multiple times killing him. In the meantime the guy tries to find a girlfriend with the help of his co-worker. For marraige “Til Death Do Us Part” can keep him alive. [the angel can't kill anyone but the young man so if he gets married with someone they are consider as one.The angel though starts to fall in love with the young man while he despises her.]

kinda confusing for some i guess
but this is just the summary
as long as you get the idea
which is better?

Best answer:

Answer by Johnny’s wife for life
I like the second one.

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I need some advice on some family issues?

Question by Lena: I need some advice on some family issues?
I’m seventeen years old and I live with both of my parents. I pay for everything I have, minus car insurance. I work in retail and make about 250-300 every two weeks.

I don’t get along with my parents at all. My mom straight out said that she has “severed any emotional connection towards me.” Every time I say anything she turns it into a fight. I literally can’t even sit down next to her without her saying something rude. Whenever we fight, I just keep asking her to stop saying mean things and try to remain civil. Until it escalates too much and I say “I really can’t handle this anymore…” And then she’ll say something like “I’ve been tired of your bullsh*t for the last five years!” I don’t really understand what my “bullsh*t” is. I mean, when I was younger I got into trouble and stuff. Now I literally just work and study and go to school. I literally worked/studied this whole weekend. I have no time for friends or getting into trouble.

We used to see a family therapist. The family therapist gave me and my mom little things to do in order to avoid conflict. I really tried to do mine, but my mom seemed to sort of forget what hers were, and instead started fighting with me about how I “wasn’t doing my part” and acted as though the therapy was completely centered around me and her behavior didn’t need to change at all.

When I have friends over and stuff, my mom’s really nice, and we get along really well. I actually really love her then. But after they leave she just starts fighting again.

I don’t really know what to do anymore. I can’t handle this. She’s refusing to drive me to work. I don’t want to get fired…

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Answer by dollybird
seems like she is still not over what u did in the past. the only way of sorting it out is to talk to her.. tell her u have to say something and explain how u feel.

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Can you suggest a superb comeback line?

Question by XY: Can you suggest a superb comeback line?
I am a 24 yr old PhD student. Here is something that happened to me on Feb 22 last yr:

I had just gotten back from an embassy in DC, because I was going to Europe for a very prestigious research project. There is this lecturer I knew personally and I told her how hard it was walking all those miles …(inside DC…I didn’t walk to DC, of course!!!) because I couldn’t afford a car. She cut me short and said “Oh…like a grad student take the train”.

Now I have nothing against trains, but I was enraged at the “like a grad student part”. I couldn’t believe that a lecturer who had a simple masters degree, just like I did, could treat me like trash to my face. But, being poor, there was little I could do except smile sadly.

Its been a year and I am about to get my PhD this week. I want to rub it in once I am done. Although the economy has collapsed, I have more than one offer for university positions…real research positions…not lecturer ones. I want a superb comeback line. I want it to reflect the fact that I have the upper hand now, both in terms of salary and education. I will start, of course, with more money than she is making now. “Like a grad student”, eh? I want her to feel the weight of what PhD students, i.e. the scum of the earth, the grass beneath her feet, can achieve… I want it to bite.

I posted this before on y-answers… I was surprised with the “be the bigger person” answers I received. You know, its not really called “being a bigger person” if the other side is not aware of it. If I dont get back at her, I dont think she will feel grateful to me for not doing that. On the other hand, if I hit out at her, she is certain to curse herself for how she spoke to me. Why not have revenge when it can be had, especially when not taking revenge will result in the offender basically forgetting about the crime?
Looking at the replies here, i can only say it is a pity that I can never win…in any situation:
1. In HS I am the geeky unpopular kid who does science crap
2. In college I am not cool enough and I am lazy as well bec I am not getting a “real” job.
3. In grad school I am expected to eat ashes because I am a grad student.
4. When I get my PhD, I am declared a snob. Never mind all those times people sneered at me for not being in a “real job”. Since when has it become harder to do a desk job than earn a PhD? But who am I complaining to?

I went from being called geek to being called lazy to being called snob. All this time, my only fault was working hard and staying ahead of others.

Best answer:

Answer by Skunkysue
She wont even remember the remark. Its such a flipant remark you’re obsessing.

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Can you suggest a superb comeback line?

Question by XY: Can you suggest a superb comeback line?
I am/was a 24 yr old PhD student. Here is something that happened to me on Feb 22 last yr:

I had just gotten back from an embassy in DC, because I was going to Europe for a very prestigious research project. There is this lecturer I knew personally and I told her how hard it was walking all those miles …(inside DC…I didn’t walk to DC, of course!!!) because I couldn’t afford a car. She cut me short and said “Oh…like a grad student take the train”.

Now I have nothing against trains, but I was enraged at the “like a grad student part”. I couldn’t believe that a lecturer who had a simple masters degree, just like I did, could treat me like trash to my face. But, being poor, there was little I could do except smile sadly.

Its been a year and I got my PhD today. I want to rub it in once I am done. Although the economy has collapsed, I have more than one offer for university positions…real research positions…not lecturer ones. I want a superb comeback line. I want it to reflect the fact that I have the upper hand now, both in terms of salary and education. I will start, of course, with more money than she is making now. “Like a grad student”, eh? I want her to feel the weight of what PhD students, i.e. the scum of the earth, the grass beneath her feet, can achieve… I want it to bite.

I posted this before on y-answers… and from my bitter experience with the answers, I’d like to say:
1. I am not trying to express any general contempt for anyone who does not have a phd. This is a simple, PERSON SPECIFIC, tit for tat situation. I am sure everyone has been angry at someone at some point. So please don’t hurl abuse at me and call me arrogant.

2. “Being the bigger person” does not make sense here. She has probably forgotten about this remark and if I don’t take it up with her, she will never know that I was “being a bigger person”.

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Answer by margie k
I’m sorry but you need mental counseling. This happened a year ago and you are still this angry ?? wtf – you’ve never been insulted before in your life and this is the first time or what…. if so you have led a very charmed life. Listen, hon, the best revenge is living well – which you are doing, by being in a better position now than this person. sheesh.

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Obsessed with accusing my wife of cheating?

Question by : Obsessed with accusing my wife of cheating?
Not sure if there is such an obsession or a name for it, but I know I have a problem. I have been with my wife for 12 years (10 married) and I’ve probably accused her of cheating at least once a month for the entire 12 years. It sounds miserable, but I really am a great person the other 29 days of the month to balance it out. These #’s are estimates or averages of course, I don’t have a set date every month that I make accusations. She of course has been perfect for 12 years, and has never cheated on me or even thought about it for 1 second during our entire marraige in her words. She does not possess any of the common symtoms of cheating, yet I still just think she is or has at some point. I am obsessed with finding out the truth so I can forgive her and move on. As crazy as that sounds, it’s the truth. I am pretty much aware that 99% of people have cheated on their spouse at some point and about 60% or so will admit to it. Trying to figure out if she is in the 39% lying or 1% that actually is faithful is killing me. The fights are getting old, and she is pretty much ready to leave me unless I change fast.

I’ve tried refraining from accusing her on my own and I just can’t do it. I need help. I want to get counseling, but for what? Beyond my occasional accusations, our marraige is great. I’m afraid to bring her into marraige cnsling with me in fear that the counselor will privately reccommend that she leaves me (which she would have every right to). I want counseling for myself only, since I’m the one with the problem. Is there such thing as an obsession with accusing people of cheating? If so, how do you treat it?

History = 2 months into relationship, she called in sick to work and was on the way to see her ex boyfriend but got stopped by her dad (she was in his car). He called me up thinking she was with me and I was wondering where she was too. She claimed she was with a friend and they were going to visit me. I never believed her, so we had a few long fights, but she stuck to her story. i couldn’t prove anything so I left it alone. About 1 month later, I tell her to call her ex -boyfriend with me on 3 way to tell him she never wants to talk to him again. He ask, “then why were u going to pick me up that day u called in sick to work”? She was caught off guard, and admitted to me all the details later. She didn’t cheat, but she was going to. Being 19 years old in a new relationship (2 months) and making a mistake with ex boyfriend was an acceptable mistake to me at the time, so I forgave her. My BIG concern was “lying to the end part”.

Over the years, she has repeated the whole “lying to the end” stuff concerning financial things. She donated thousands of dollars to the church over a 5 month period, while taking extreme measures to cover it up. During those 5 months, we had at least 3 major fights where I pretty much interrogated her about our finances, but she stuck to her story every time that there is nothing I don’t know about and I got serious self esteem and insecurity problems. One day, I happen to take the hours to do extreme research into our finances and got lucky enough to come accross these donations to the church. We had a few other financial things that she kept from me and never confessed to after numerous fights, but I found out about through pure luck. I am not so concerned about the financial stuff, even though I’ve taken extreme measures to controll our finances now, but more concerned with the “lying to the end” part. I simply can’t trust her. I don’t know when she’s telling the truth anymore.

So I start thinking that she is “lying to the end” about cheating as well. She is so professional at keeping secrets for her family and friends about cheating and cover ups that I often wonder if they and her are doing the same for her with me. I’ve interrogated her good cop, bad cop, and all the above, but she has never cracked once about “anything”. I realize I either need to accept she hasn’t cheated or she will “NEVER” fess up if she has. Nevertheless, something takes over me and I can’t stop questioning her and accusing her. Has anyone else ever been through this? Is there a name for this obsession? Can it be treated? Help me.

Best answer:

Answer by DM
You need to learn that you’ll never get to your future clearly if you are always looking backwards.

12 YEARS of looking backwards, aren’t you tired of it yet?

She needs to learn that marriage is a partnership and money is something to be discussed between the two of you. You BOTH should manage the funds and have common goals to work towards.

Try speaking to her like you love her instead of like you are interviewing her for crimes. Maybe she will be ABLE to open up and be honest with you. It’s tough living with someone that always thinks you are up to no good.

Yes, you can get help for your behaviour. Cognitive therapy may help you relearn how to recognize a positive reaction vs. a negative one. Best wishes.

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JBL Completely Done with Wrestling (No GM or Announcing)?

Question by I Hate Peeps™: JBL Completely Done with Wrestling (No GM or Announcing)?
*Courtesy Sescoops.com*

John Bradshaw Layfield has posted a blog over at the WWE Universe site and says he is moving on from his wrestling career to focus on the next chapter of his life.

“I had wanted to make it to WM 25 for years, and when injuries cut my career short the one regret I had was that I wouldn’t make the 25th anniversary of Wrestlemania,” JBL wrote. “Well, I made it. I never dreamed after I retired the first time that my back would get better and I would be allowed to return to wrestling…

Regarding his future, he says, “I don’t know what the future holds, never say never in life. But I have wrestled my last match. Months ago, I picked out this match. If Eddie Guerrero couldn’t be here for it then my dear friend Rey [Mysterio] was the obvious choice, and I’m proud he was. I want to thank the WWE for a great career, for taking a chance on me and allowing me the keys to the car for a while. I will always represent the WWE wherever I go, I am proud of my 13 ½ years with the WWE. And, I am proud of the WWE for cleaning up a great sport to make it more healthy to everyone that is a part.”

Unfortunately for JBL fans, his days in the ring are likely over. “However, I have no current plans on doing anything in the future on a professional level with WWE. I don’t plan on doing commentary. In fact, it hasn’t even been brought up to me. I don’t plan on being an on air character. I plan on starting the next chapter in my life, and closing the door on this one.”

The former Intercontinental champ is working with Charlie Haas to help him grow his energy drink store in Texas. He says working on Layfield Energy, working with Haas, and working on some other projects will keep him busy after his WWE career.

“I plan on hunkering down and building my companies. I plan on building a world class distribution service in Nashville and a top notch global beverage company,” JBL said. “I have a deal in the banking world that I hope to get done that will allow the disabled the first fully access bank online.”

WQ – If this is True , and JBL is COMPLETELY Done with Wrestling…Are You Happy or Sad?

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Answer by THE CAPTAIN IS BACK!!!!!!™
IDK I wish him the best in all his further endeavors

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